(Part I is here.)
I've got a lot of bits written, but it's hard to write about the soft spot and what it means. Part of the problem is that the soft spot isn't really about mechanics.
We're taught and learn lots of mechanics, as if riding a horse were like driving a car. Almost none of the really good stuff is about mechanics, which is about operating on the outside of the horse. Now, this is not to say that our own mechanics - how we sit, what we do with our bodies, our tension/relaxation, and how we time our aids - aren't important - they are. Part of what I'm trying to write about is responsibility - our responsibility to the horse to be the best rider we can. But softness isn't something you do to the horse, it's something you and the horse are, together. There are mechanical things that can get you part of the way there, but in the end it's not about mechanics.
The soft spot also isn't a verbal thing - using words to describe it is hard. The soft spot is physical, and mental, and let's be clear, it's also spiritual and about relationship, deep relationship.
So these posts are going to come slowly.
More coming . . .