Remember a time when you felt deeply contented - calm, focussed, open and aware, alert but not excited, and deeply, quietly joyful. Now put that feeling into yourself - into your core, just behind your belly button. Hold it there and breathe. Now, next time you're riding, find that feeling, then offer that to your horse - just make it a place at your core where the horse can join you in deep contentment. See what happens . . .